Where do I fit in? - translated into Georgian

 saqarTvelo, sad vipovo SenTan Cemi adgili?

Aaxla rodesac gacilebiT meti vici masze, minda ki es namdvilad?

genderuli sakiTxebisadmi tradiciuli damokidebuleba saqarTveloSi jer kidev dominirebs. mSeneblebi Tbilisis erT-erT centralur ubanSi Canda sakmaod garkveulebi iyvnen qalis rolze maT sazogadoebaSi,

“idealuria roca kaci ojaxis Tavi da marCenalia, qali ki ojaxSia da zrunavs masze. esaa swored harmoniuli ojaxi” Tqva erTma.

es ZiriTadad is Tvalsazrisia, romelsac qveynis sakmaod Zlieri eklesia qadagebs. 2012 wlis aprilis erT-erT sakvirao wirvaze Tbilisis MmTavar kaTedralur taZarSi, qarTuli marTlmadidebluri eklesiis meTauri ilia II qadagebda:

“kacs abaria ojaxi da misi rCena, qali ki saxlSi unda elodebodes da daRlil meuRles mosvlisTanave miegebos, fexebi dabanos.”

aq araferi iyo naTqvami qarTul ojaxebSi “ojaxis ufrosis” mier qalebis mimarT ganxorcielebul Zaladobis kargad dokumentirebul maRal maCveneblebze. es sityvebi TiTqosda saqarTveloSi mimdinare qalTa moZraobis aRmavlobis gamo Semokruli glovis zarebia. es moZraoba TandaTan Zalas ikrebs, qalebi cdiloben xma aimaRlon Zaladobaze da maT patriarqalur sazogadoebaSi uflebebis mopovebisaTvis aqtiuroben. mamakacTa da qalTa zemoT naxsenebi aseTi erTi SexedviT sasacilo saqcielis molodiniT xdeba arsebuli genderuli stereotipebis waqezeba, mowoneba da samaradJamod damkvidreba am ojaxuri mona-morCilobis ciklisa *(2). rogorc es gavrcelebul qarTul gamoTqmaSia “qalma unda icodes misi adgili”. . . qalebisaTvis aq dResaviT naTelia maTi adgili da is maTi mamakacebis gverdiT namdvilad araa.

SemiZlia amis mqadageblis pativiscema mas Semdeg rac man qalebisTvis gaimeta? Cemgan es pativiscema zustad igive zomis iqneba rac TviT aqvs mas Cems mimarT. ojaxuri Zaladobis miRebis da misTvis mwvane Suqis anTebis gamo, me ukve aRar maqvs didi survili sadme mainc vipovo aq Cemi adgili. qalTa sruli qedmoxrilobis sakiTxi ar aris unikaluri saqarTvelosTvis. ase, rom vgoneb Rirs Cavixedo cota Rrmad sazogadoebaSi da mis tradiciebSi da iqneb mivagno sad SeiZleba gamovnaxo aq adgili, an movergo.

zogjer Cagecineba adamians ise emTxveva movlenebis wlisTavebi da pirad mtrebTan dakavSirebuli dReebi erTmaneTs. patriarqis es qadageba, TiTqosda sagangaSod Semokruli zarebi, emTxveva saqarTvelosTan Cemi sakuTari piradi urTierTobis dakargvis glovis zarsa da dards. me marTlac mWirdeba imis gaazreba da gageba Tu sad da rogor unda megrZno Tu vigrZno (isev?) Tavi aqaurobis nawilad.

axlaxans davbrundi qarTuli simReris nvirekulida, romelic gaimarTa Sotlandiis mTianeTSi arsebuli findhornis fondSi. aq, findhornis kvireulSi monawileobis misaRebad mowveulebi iyvnen raTa sakuTar Tavze ganecadaT zogs pirvelad, zogs kide Cemi ar iyos meramdened, sixaruli qarTuli simReris Sesrulebisa da aJRerebisas gancdili, TrTola misi bgerebis aTrTolebasTan erTad. Sinagan TrTola-vibrirebasTan dakavSireba sakmaod rTuli saqmea CvenTvis, dasavlelebisaTvis, qarTuli simReris musika swored am saqmes emsaxureba, rac mas unikalurobas aniWebs. Sinagani vibraciis miyuradebiT, moTokviT da am energiis sakuTari “me”sken warmarTviT adamians SeuZlia gaigonos da igrZnos am uzarmazari energiis rezonansi gacilebiT Sors da Rrmad vidre ubralod xmis JReraa, TiTqosda bgerebis bombi afeTqebula am “me”s SigniT. es is tradiciuli midgomaa simReris mimarT, romelsac dasavleTSi viyenebT. es im energiasTan kavSiria, romelsac qarTvelebi “bunebriv” mdgomareobad miiCneven, da ar sWirdebaT maT amisTvis ganmartoveba magaliTad, bunebaSi, rogorc amas axali drois stereotipuli  hipuri mogzaurebi akeTeben, rodesac laSqroben Sotlandiis mTebSi sakuTar TavTan yofnis da Wvretis, ganmartoebis survilis dasakmayofileblad. is harmonia, rasac es Sinagani vibraciebi qmnian uaRresad gamamxnevebelia da SeuZlia gulis kari gaxsnas, goneba ganwmidos da frenis SegrZnebac gangacdevinoT, Tu ra Tqma unda araa zedapiruli da guliT da gonebiT namReria.

sad SeiZleba aseTi TrTolvis gancdis Semdeg adgili movunaxo am arqaul da modi davarqvaT Tavisi saxeli, warmoudgenel da qedmaRlur gancxadebas romelic saqarTvelos patriarqma gaakeTa? rac me minaxavs da gamigonia saqarTveloSi bevri qali, iqneba es feministi Tu visTvisac sruliad gaugebaria feminizmi, erTnairad eTanxmeba raRac donemde saqarTvelos eklesiis mier maT win dadebul ZiriTad principebs, imitom rom es sazogadoebaSi maTi rolebis gansazRvraSi exmarebaT, im sazogadoebaSi, romelmac faqtobrivad dakarga sakuTari gza genderul sakiTxebTan dakavSirebiT.

gansxvavdeba agreTve qarTuli gageba da gamocdileba am vibraciuli, mTrTolvare energiis daniSnulebisa, Cven dasavleTSi gviZneldeba aseTi ramisgan sargebeli vipovoT.

problema maSin Cndeba, rodesac es mamoZravebeli Zala Tu energia ganuyofeli nawilia im sazogadoebrivi rolebisa, romelic mosaxerxebelia mxolod mamakacTaTvis. ase magaliTad, aq kacs ase awyobs qals sjerodes, rom es kavSirebi( energia) unikaluria da maTi kulturis memkvidreobaa, ris gamoc xelSeuxebeli unda iyos. bevri qarTveli am Sinagan energias endoba da hgonia is maT TavianT TanamemamuleebTan daakavSirebs da daaaxlovebs. bevri mas usafrTxoebisa da erTobis SenarCunebis saSualebad aRiqvams (romelic SeiZleba mogeCvenoT an ar mogeCvenoT iluziad), agreTve genderul identobadac (savaraudod meore iluzia), romelic sabWoTa kavSiris darRvevamde sakmaod Tanaswori iyo (genderul Tanasworobas vgulisxmob)*(3).

SesaZlebelia qalebma daijeron rom isini am energiebis da kavSirebis gareT arseboben rodesac maTSidac igive vibraciebi warmoiSoba? Cemi mxridan saqarTveloSi sul mcire 6-jer stumroba (miwveviT) Cems erTgvar Zalisxmevasac unda niSnavdes, yovel SemTxvevaSi mcdelobas mainc, gamego da gza gamekvlia am sakiTxis irgvliv arsebul morevSi.

eklesiis garda qarTuli xalxuri musikisa da sagaloblebis (sanam rusebi akrZalavdnen) yvelaze tradiciul adgilad sufra miiCneva, romelic ZiriTadad aRqmulia mikrokosmosad ufro didi makro qarTuli sazogadoebisa. ucxoel stumars guliTadad maspinZloben *(5) da am tradiciis Tanamonawiled xdian, rac ramdenadac mesmis saukeTeso adgilia am sakiTxebTan Sexebisa da dakvirvebisaTvis. sad aris qalebis adgili am mikrokosmosSi, ara mxolod Cemi, dasavleli qalis, aramed TviTon qarTveli qalebis?

gansxvavebebi dasavleTsa da saqarTvelos Soris, masSi Tu ra warmodgena gvaqvs sufraze, rogor vakvirdebiT da aRtacebaSi movdivarT misiT aSkara da cxadi iyo gasuli kviris erT saRamos konferenciaze findhornSi, sadac qarTuli sufra iyo gamarTuli. es sufra tradiciuli iyo im gagebiT, rom gvyavda Tamada, gvqonda mis mier SemoTavazebuli sadRegrZeloebi da gvyavda maspinZeli, fondis mxatvruli direqtori. xalxis urTierTobebi da saqcielic magidasTan TanxmobaSi iyo TamadasTan, romelic Zalian poeturi adamiani iyo da rac mTavaria kargad gaTviTcnobierebuli qarTul da inglisur wes-CveulebebSi. sufra tradiciuli iyo im gagebiTac, rom yovel sadRegrZelos moyveboda qarTuli simRera da TiToeuli sufris wevris gulidan amomaval sityvebs, romlebic sadRegrZelos ukavSirdeboda miesalmeboda irgvliv yvela. tradiciuli iyo imitomac, rom karga xans gagrZelda da vsvamdiT wiTel Rvinos, rogorc pativiscemis kidev erTi dasturi, ra Tqma unda sadRegrZelos Semdeg da ara manamde.

swored aq damTavrda sufris tradiciuli gagebis idea da Semdeg Cemi azriT, erTob inglisur/evropulma momentebma iCines Tavi. Tavdapirvelad unda vaxseno Tamadis roli da TviT Tamada, romelsac ramden qarTul sufrazec ar vyofilvar iSviaTad Tu vinme amCnevs xolme, stumrebi xSirad erTmaneTSi layboben, an sulac mobilur telefonebze saubroben, zogi SeiZleba mRerodes kidec an xmamaRla gacxarebiT laparakobdes misTvis saintereso Temebze. Cemi gagebiT, rodesac sufraze msgavsi ram dasaSvebi xdeba maSin es udaod cudi Tamadis niSania. amis sapirispirod, Cvens Sotlandiur sufraze yvela erTmaneTs usmenda da mxars ubamda, yvelas erTi sasaubro Tema aerTianebda, yvela Tamadis  sufris warmarTvis saucxoo niWiT moxibluli, krZalviT SevyurebdiT mas. igrZnoboda erToba, raRac axalic gavigeT da viswavleT kidec. Cveni Tamada gaxldaT frenk qeini, romelmac Cemi azriT didi samuSao Seasrula da gvaCvena Tu rogori SeiZleba iyos da unda iyos sufra. “Tana-moTamaded” ki mas qali hyavda, erTob mgrZnobiare da Wkviani qali, mkafio metyvelebiT da naTeli saubriT. sxva qalebsac masTan erTad TavianTi wvlili SehqondaT sufris erTobaSi da mxiarulebaSi. mikrofoni gadadioda xelidan xelSi, yvelas visac Tavisi azris da gulidan amomavali sityvebis Tqma undoda, ambobda amas Tamamad. sufrasTan isxdnen TeTrkaniani da Savkaniani qalebi, maRlebi Tu dablebi, protestantebi, qalebi kelturi warmomavlobiT, amerikidan, iaponiidan. Sotlandielma qalma marjeri breim imRera qarTuli qalTa saritualo simRera, romelsac maSinve xmebi Seuwyves sufris wevrma qalebma. es iseTi saocari ram iyo, yovelgvari SiSis gareSe, laRad Sesrulebuli, rom me marTlac vigrZeni Tavi raRac gansakuTrebulis nawilad da me vgrZnobdi: me mindoda iq yofna.

es ar gavda tradiciul qarTul sufras, sadac qali arc gverdiT uzis Tavis mamakacs da verc imas naxav sadRagrZelos ambobdes. Tu ar gagimarTla da ar xar stumari qali, maSin mogiwevs umetesi drois samzareuloSi gatareba nairnairi kerZebis mosamzadeblad, qarTveli qalis rolic esaa: sufris msvlelobisas axal-axali da cxel-cxeli Semoitanos xolme, TefSebi da nasufrali akrifos magididan da ZiriTadad xelze moaxled emsaxuros sufris wevrebs. arasodes gamigonia qarTul sufraze qals sityva eTqvas da rodesac me vecade erTxel, maSinve gamaCumes da damarwmunes, rom es normaluri movlena iyo, damariges kidec Semdegac ase movqceuliyavi*(4). gekiTxebiT, sad da ratom unda mepova iq Cemi adgili, ormag standartebSi, Semdeg rom Tavi uaryofilad da ignorirebulad megrZno da Cemi TavisTvis damesva kiTxva, saerTod aq ra mindodaTqo?

findhornis sufra iyo cocxali, sazeimo, sufris yvela wevri saerTo mxiarulebaSi CarTuli, Tavazianebi sapirispiro sqesis mimarT. kerZebic, Tavis mxriv Zalian gemrieli da ubralo, ar warmoadgenda raRac rTul da CaxlarTul kulinarul Sedevrebs. maT Semqmnel mzareulebsac (orive sqesisas) didi madloba da gansakuTrebuli xseneba ergoT sufris wevrebisgan. es findhornis fondis damokidebuleba da midgoma kidev erTi mowmoba iyo aseTi fesvgadgmuli pativiscemisa pirvel rigSi da mec Tavs ra Tqma unda Zalian komfortulad vgrZnobdi, vgrZnobdi rom imaTi nawili viyavi. didi gansxvaveba qarTulsa da am Sotlandiur sufras Soris enis barieris ar arseboba iyo, aq yvela inglisurad saubrobda.

amasTan dakavSirebiT maxsendeba erT-erTi yvelaze gulsatkeni sufra CemTvis, sadac Tavs ukiduresad arakomfortulad vgrZnobdi, es lxini gaimarTa  britaneTSi. am sufraze yvela inglisurad saubrobda qarTvelebis garda, Tumca sakmaod kargad SeeZloT gagebac da azris gadmocemac, magram. .. pirvelad aq vigrZeni uxerxulad Tavi, TiTqos raRac ise ar iyo, rogorc unda yofiliyo, magram radgan qarTuli ar mesmoda ver vgebulobdi ra xdeboda. maT gverdiT adgils ver vpoulobdi. zedapirulad ase Canda, viTom yvelaferi Cveulebrivad midioda, magram Cemi qarTveli Tanameinaxeebi aSkarad normalurze ufro mets miRimodnen da micinodnen, sicilic raRac siTbos moklebuli iyo. mogvianebiT ramdenime wyarodan gavige, rom iq myofi qarTvelebis (kacebis) saubrebi Seicavda damamcirebel da seqsualuri konteqstis mqone Seuracxmyofel komentarebs Cemi misamarTiT. ese igi, am uxamsi komentarebis fonze TvalebSi  miyurebdnen, micinodnen, sadRegrZeloebs ambobdnen da TavianTi turnes warmatebas zeimobdnen. me ar minda amis nawili da moziare viyo. (es Zalian bevr cudze metyvelebs am konkretul qarTvel kacebis Sesaxeb da arafers Cemze, aqve minda aRvniSno, rom qalTa dayofa qaliSvilebad da bozebad gavrcelebuli  Temaa saqarTveloSi).

stumar qarTvelebs Soris Cems sakuTar qveyanaSi Tavi mousvenrad da ucxod vigrZeni, maSin roca sxvadasxva rasis, kulturisa da rwmenis warmomadgenlebTan findhornSi, romlebic gulaxdilebi da didi pativiscemiT gamsWvalulebi iyvnen qarTuli kulturis da tradiciebis mimarT Cemi xma TrToda simRerisas, suli maRldeboda, gulis kari iReboda da Tvalebi mibrwyinavda. me netarebaSi viyavi, radgan Tavs iqaurobis nawilad vTvlidi.

SeiZleba saqarTvelos patriarqs surdes gansazRvros qalTa roli qarTul sazogadoebaSi ise, rom maT ver SeZlon WeSmariti sixaruliT ibrwyinon TavianT qveyanaSi. SeiZleba mas surdes isini saxlSi isxdnen da pasiurad elodebodnen qmrebis mosvlas, raTa maT fexebi dabanon. SeiZleba qalebis umravlesoba amas normad aRiqvams, rom ara aqvs xmis amoRebis ufleba, da rom verasodes Seicvleba rame. maSin, keTili batono.

Tu mxolod esaa qarTuli sufra, saqarTveloSi namaspinZlari, kacTa mier dominirebuli, romlebic elodebian am gauTavebeli kerZebis mzadebis da samzareuloSi qancis gawyvetis Semdeg rogor mieaxlebian maT colebi karebSi Sesvlisas da fexebs dabanen, Tu mxolod esaa qarTuli keTilSobileba da stumar-maspinZloba, maSin madlobT, magram me marTlac ar msurs aq Cemi adgilis povna an am yvelafris nawilad gaxdoma.

me vipovi adgils albaT im qalebs Soris, visac ar surs maT xedavdenen monebiviT qedmoxrilebs, romlebsac ar gaaCniaT aranairi xma, da cdiloben Tavi daimkvidron, gaixaron sakuTari individualobiT, ipovon dakarguli xmebi, gaaRon gulis karebi da gulianad imReron TavianTi sakuTari simRerebi. . .…am qalebis gverdiT miguleT mec.

*(1) Has feminism arrived in Georgia?  Damien McGuinness BBC News Tbilisi

*(2) www.unfpa.org/public/home/news/pid/13518

*(3) www.ge.boell.org/web/116-996.html

*(4) scholarworks.iu.edu/journals/index.php/aeer/article/view/1249/1332

*(5) A Guest is a Gift from God Coner McKeever

With thanks for the translation  by eliso sarava

GEORGIA Where do I fit in?

Now that I know a lot more about it, do I actually want to?

In Georgia, 'traditional(gender)attitudes still dominate. And workers on one building site in central Tbilisi were clear about what they thought a woman's role in Georgian society should be.

'In an ideal family, the man should be the head of the family, the breadwinner. And the wife should care for the family. That's how a household works harmoniously' said one man.

That is a view shared by the country's powerful Church. At a Sunday sermon at the main cathedral in Tbilisi at the end of April (2012) the patriarch, head of the Georgian Orthodox Church, got involved in the debate.

'Men are in charge of the family' he said, 'and women should be waiting at home ready to wash their husband's feet when the get in from work.' (1)

He omitted to mention the extremely high rate and well documented evidence of domestic violence against women by the ‘head of the family’.  By imposing gender roles within the family he is attempting to break the women’s movement currently gaining momentum in Georgia. Women are trying to speak out against issues of violence and are being proactive in an attempt to empower themselves within this patriarchal society. By stating such ludicrous expectations of both male and female behaviour, the patriarch seems to be positively encouraging these gender stereotypes and would appear to be endorsing and  perpetuating a cycle of domestic subjugation .  *(2) As the popular Georgian saying goes, ‘Women know their place’.  Not, Women SHOULD know their place… no, women are very clear about their place and it’s not on an equal footing with men. (Excuse the pun) 

Can I respect the patriarch for saying this about women? I can give him about the same amount of respect as he has afforded me. On the acceptance of domestic abuse and utter female subservience, I have no intention of complying. The question of women’s subservience is not entirely unique to Georgia so I need to look a bit deeper into the society and its traditions to see if I fit in anywhere.

It’s funny how anniversaries spark re-connections with old adversaries.  As the apparent death knell from Ilia II issued a year ago this month coincides with a year of grieving and mourning the loss of my own intimate relationship with Georgia, I find a need to reason and understand where I did or do (still? )fit in. The loss was the result of a series of betrayals and emotional abuse from a whole group of people who had professed to care about me.

I have just returned from a week singing Georgian song at the Findhorn Foundation which is in the Scottish Highlands.  At Findhorn, participants were invited to experience, some for the first time, other’s, like me, for the umpteenth time, the joys of singing and vibrating within Georgian song. Connecting with the internal cat purr of healing is a hard thing to do for us folk in the west but it is what essentially makes Georgian song so unique. By harnessing the inner vibration and sounding to the self, to the me, the resonance of energy can, like a sonic boom, be heard, and felt much further away than by purely using the voice. Using the voice alone is the way we traditionally approach singing in the West. Conversely, this is the energy connection which Georgians refer to as the ‘natural’ state and not the stereotypical image of a ‘natural’ new age traveller romping about naked up in the north of Scotland getting in touch with themselves and doing a lot of naval gazing.  The sorts of harmonies this internal vibration creates  is also very energising, opens the heart, heals the mind and  gives a feeling of ‘flying’ especially if enough head vibration singing is done.

Where does this vibrational experience fit into the archaic (and let’s face it, outrageous ) and assumptive statement made by the patriarch of Georgia? In my experience many women, both those who walk the path of feminism as well as non-feminist Georgian women agree with the basic principles being put forward by the head of the Church on some level because it seems to help to define roles in a society which has essentially lost its way with regards issues around gender.

Also, because the Georgian experience and understanding of the purpose of vibrational connection is different to ours we find it difficult to see the benefit.  The problem comes when the vibration connection is presented as an integral part of societal roles that are convenient to the male. That is, it suits the man to let women believe that this connection is unique and part of a cultural heritage, and therefore ought not to be questioned or challenged. Many Georgians rely on this inner vibration to connect them to their fellow Georgians. Many see it as a way to maintain a sense of safety and cohesion (that may or may not be an illusion) a gender identity (also possibly another illusion) which, before the fall of the Soviet Union was in actual fact pretty equal with regards the equality of the sexes. *(3)

Is it  possible for women to believe that they can exist outside of the vibration whilst still experiencing it? Having been (invited to go) to Georgia (at last count 6 times) must count for some kind of commitment on my part to at least try to understand the maelstrom that surrounds these issues.

Apart from in church the most traditional place for Georgian Folk and (often church music until it was no longer banned by the Russians) is at the Supra which is generally perceived as a microcosm of the larger Georgian society. Foreign guests are welcomed with open arms *(5) into this tradition so as far as I am concerned it’s an excellent place to look at these issues.  Where do women fit into this microcosm?  Not just me, a woman from the west, but Georgian women themselves?

The differences between the way we, in the west look at, study, marvel and re-create the Supra to the actual Georgian supra was  never  more pronounced than on an evening last week when I attended a traditional Georgian supra as part of the Earth Sings Conference at Findhorn. It was traditional in that it followed a series of toasts proposed by the Tamada or Toast Master and was hosted by the artistic director of the Foundation. People responded respectfully and gave the deepest accord to the Tamada who was poetic and knowledgeable about both Georgian and English customs.  It was traditional in that Georgian songs were sung after each toast and that everyone was invited to speak what was in their hearts as long as it was linked to the initial idea proposed in the toast. It was traditional in that it took a long time to get to the end of the evening and that there was red-wine which was drunk, as a mark of respect, after the end of each toast and not before.  

That was where the idea of a traditional experience of a supra ended and I think a very English/European ‘take’ on things began to appear. For a start, at all the Supras I have been to in Georgia, and I have been to many, hardly anyone takes any notice of the Tamada – the guests are often on mobile phones or chatting, or singing and there are often  raised voices and heated exchanges with lots of gesticulating. It is my understanding that if this sort of behaviour is allowed to continue it is the sign of a bad Tamada.  Conversely, at our Scottish Supra everyone listened and supported, learnt something new and sat in awe at the skill of the Tamada, Frank Kane who, in my opinion did an outstanding job in showing us what a supra could be like, ought to be like, should be like. Women contributed on every level with the co-Tamada being a woman, and a very articulate and sensitive woman she was as well. The microphone was handed around to anyone who felt they wanted to contribute and women contributed just as much as men.  There  were white women, black women, tall women, short women, women from a gospel background, from a Celtic past, from America, from Japan. Scottish Margery Bray sang a sacred Georgian woman’s song accompanied by a mixed voice drone and all the women did these amazing things with no fear of intimidation. I definitely felt part of something really special and wanted to be there.

This was unlike at a ‘traditional’ Georgian supra where women neither sit with the men or contribute to the toasts. Unless you are a guest, women have more often than not spent all day preparing the food. The role of the Georgian woman during the supra is to keep bringing food out, to keep things fresh and to remove plates and generally be a dogs-body. I have never heard a woman speak at a Georgian supra and when I tried, I was dismissed and admonished even though I had been told it was normal and was even encouraged to do so. *(4) Where did I fit in to that double standard?  I felt  negated and ignored which in turn made me question the reasons I was even attending such an event.

The Supra at Findhorn was supportive, convivial, inclusive, celebratory and courteous to both sexes. The food, whilst not attempting to follow any form of complex table organisation was lovely and had been prepared and served by kitchen staff (of both sexes) who were recognised and thanked publicly  It was a testament to the attitude and approach of the Findhorn Foundation that such deep rooted respect existed in the first place and I felt very comfortable being a part of it. The biggest difference between the Findhorn Supra and one taking place in Georgia was that there were no language barriers as everyone spoke English.  

Having said that one of the most traumatic Supra’s I have been to and was made to feel very uncomfortable at was one which took place in the UK where everyone but the  Georgian guests spoke fluent English. (the Georgian guests on the whole had a good grasp of English however)  It was there that I felt that something was not what it ought to be, but not speaking Georgian I had no idea what was wrong. I just did not feel as if I fit in. Everything was working on the surface but the company I was keeping seemed to be doing a lot of extra smiling and the laughter was devoid of warmth. I have since been told from more than one source that the conversation by the Georgian (men) present included making derogatory and sexual comments about me. This happened whilst looking me in the eye, smiling, laughing, toasting and celebrating the success of their tour. I don’t want to be part of that. (This says everything about these particular Georgian men and nothing about me – the defining of women as either virgins or whores is a recurrent theme in Georgia)   

In the company of visiting Georgians, in my own country I was made to feel uncomfortable but in the company of a mixture of cultures, races and creeds at Findhorn who were being true to and respectful of the Georgian culture and traditions my voice soared in song, my spirit flew, my heart opened and my eyes shone. I loved being part of that.

The patriarch of Georgia may want women to be defined by ‘traditional’ roles so that they are unable to genuinely shine within their own society. He may well want them to be at home, passively waiting to wash their husband’s feet. Maybe too many women accept as the norm that they have no voice, have no right to a voice and that nothing will ever change. Right then.

If the reality of a Georgian supra, hosted in Georgia, dominated by men who negate women, assume and expect  they will break from the drudgery of endless food preparation  to wash their  feet as they come through the door represents all that is supposed to be noble and good about Georgia then I really don't want to be part of it – thank you.

If I can find a place among the women who refuse to be seen as either  domestic slave or the voiceless teenage virginal bride  and who are pressing forward in the struggle to establish and flourish within  their own identities, find their own voices, open their hearts and sing their own songs… then count me in.

*(1) Has feminism arrived in Georgia? By Damien McGuinness BBC News Tbilisi
*(2) www.unfpa.org/public/home/news/pid/13518
*(3) www.ge.boell.org/web/116-996.html
*(4) scholarworks.iu.edu/journals/index.php/aeer/article/view/1249/1332
*(5) A Guest is a Gift from God Coner McKeever